To be perfectly honest, we haven’t had to let our daughter cry it out at ALL yet…. and she’s 22 months old.
We just never wanted to risk there being something really wrong with her and we’re in the other room just ignoring her. We just love her too much to ever want her to be troubled and now, she’s at an age where she barely ever cries at ALL anymore.
I think the last time she cried was at 18 months and before that, 13 months. We suffered a bit in those first few months, but we were patient and our patience paid off.
I just can’t stand the thought of a baby crying and nobody bothering to try and comfort him. He’s a baby – he doesn’t yet have that knowledge that there will always be somebody there if he NEEDS somebody but not when he haphazardly WANTS somebody. <
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I started around four or five months. Try buying Baby 411. It has a lot of info on general baby stuff with a good section on various sleep theories and techniques.
And for those people who said it’s wrong to let them cry it out…you are nuts. At a certain age they are developmentally able to put themselves to sleep. You just have to gradually give them the skills to do it. Within a couple weeks my daughter was going to sleep within 15 minutes of crying. She was better rested and so was I. I’m so glad my husband made me start doing it.
My daughter started sleeping through the night right at 3months. My Dr was on me about using the “cry it out” method from the very start but I just couldn’t do it. I would wait and if he or she is still not sleeping through the night at 5 months try it.
Just remember that it is your child and do whatever makes you feel comfortable. No one knows better than you what is right for your baby.
i dont really think its a good idea ever, personally, but then again, at the moment i can tell when my three month old i just a little fussy (making those pathetic little squeaks and grunts when i lay her down) and when she’s crying (like she actually needs something, whether it be a diaper change, food, clothes changed, or to just be held and comforted). If shes just fussing a little i’ll stand by in the room and see what she does, and usually after a couple minutes she’ll fall asleep. if she is crying i pick her up. i think i’ll keep using this method for a while, and she really seems to get the idea now that it’s bedtime, and we only get picked up if we really need something.
I wouldn’t do it until the baby was at least 12 months old, and even then I still probably wouldn’t. Babies cry for a reason, they’re hungry or cold or wet or need comfort. Letting a baby cry until they exhaust themselves and fall asleep is not teaching them to self soothe, it’s only teaching them that they’ve been abandoned and that no one will respond to their needs.
I don’t think that it is every okay to use the cry it out method.
1. CIO causes harmful changes to babies’ brains
2. CIO results in decreased intellectual, emotional and social development
3. CIO results in a detached baby
4. CIO is harmful to the parent-child relationship
5. CIO makes children insecure
6. CIO often doesn’t work at all
7. Even if CIO does “work”, parents often have to do it over and over again
8. CIO is disrespectful of my child’s needs
9. Deep sleep from CIO is often a result of trauma
10. Our world needs more love
More details here: http://phdinparenting.wordpress.com/2008…
Most articles I’ve read say not before 6 months.
Babies do cry sometimes just because they want you around or because they do not want to be alone in their crib…not always because they’re hungry, need to change or they’re hurting. Babies are not stupid.
I would have also thought the cry it out method was cruel had I not been in a position of extreme sleep deprivation because my baby just would not sleep when she was younger. I remember I was totally exhausted, very temperamental, frustrated and depressed all the time. I had no effort to play with her or even smile at her. Eventually I did try the CIO but it did not work with her either. She just started to sleep well when she was ready and that took her a whole year.
Try it when she’s a bit older and see if it works. If not, you’ll just have to wait until she’s ready to sleep through the night.
I agree with your comment LOL Sometimes people are just nasty just because..
Anyhow as for your question…. around 4 or 5 mos. You could start now by placing your child in his crib while he’s still awake, if he cries too much you can pick him up and do your old bedtime routine. Also if you’ll be switching between a bassinet and a crib-just make sure he spends some time in his crib before you do it. Let him play in there for a few minutes, put some music, or a mobile… so he can get used to it. The same goes if he already sleeps in it, but being there awake and enjoying it, makes him feel better about it, and not so scared when you actually put him to sleep.
The crying it out method is tough, it doesnt take long though, but it requires a lot of strength from you and your partner.
best of Luck!
why would you wanna do that?thats unbelieveble.how could you guys just lieve your baby cry it out..i will never do such stuping things..
i started when he was 5 months now he is 7 months he sleeps through the night perfectly!
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cry it out? thats a tough one.. I never had the heart to let my baby cry it out…lol
i think thats early..i would wait until they turn about 1 or whenever they get the cup
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your topic sucks… you should like go to sleep or something… boooo
My son is 8 months and i never let him CIO. I dont have the heart to do that. With that being said i believe that 3 months is a little too young. Also i have nothing against women that do CIO, its just that my son cries for a reason and i can’t ignore him.
I don’t have the heart to let my daughter cry it out. She sleeps in the same room as my husband and me so that’s not really a problem, but when she cries she must need something. Even if it’s just one last good night hug and kiss. I would never want my daughter to feel abandoned.
i’d say you should read up on it first.. find out the positive and negative effects of the CIO method. since you don’t know when to start, you probably have not read much about it. personally, i am never going to let my son cry it out. no matter how old he gets.. i am his mom and i will be there for him always. i remember crying it out as a toddler and it hurt so bad i never want him to experience it.
It is not recommended to use the CIO method until after 6 months. Your child cries for a reason. There are so many negative effects to it though so read about it alot before you decide! I personally don’t have the heart to do it
my dr said at 4 months when they can comfort themselves